14 May 5 THINGS THAT CAN DESTROY A MARRIAGE
“Therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” Genesis 2:24. Marriage is the union of a man and a woman to become one flesh, couples would always be faced with challenges in marriage and need to find ways to overcome in other to have a successful home. Marriage is like a school that has no year of graduation but faced with series of test and exams which need to be passed.
There are 5 things that if not paid attention to can destroy a marriage. Firstly, is COMMUNICATION, the lack of communication in a marriage is the beginning of complete wreck, couples need to learn not to only converse about the situations around their daily activities but also about their relationship and how to make it better, conversation is not the only form of communication there is also the use of body language which should synchronize with the words of your mouth. Secondly is FINANCE, financial problems between couples are not necessarily caused by lack of money but by the absence of harmonized priority. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return of their labor: If either of them falls down one can help the other up” Ecclesiastes 4:9a. It does not really matter if the wife earns more than the husband as far as they are both ready to learn to take financial decisions together. Thirdly is INFIDELITY, there would always be the temptation to be unfaithful but when you consider it carefully infidelity is totally unnecessary because it is very difficult to rebuild your partners trust once it has been broken there is also a spiritual implication to this. “What! Know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 1Corithians 6:16. The deeper your walk with God the more you will find it repugnant to engage in infidelity. Fourthly is SPIRITUALITY, the absence of God in a home is the presence of chaos, the man is not just the head of the house but also the chief priest of the home, he is to lead his family to Christ and stand in the gap, raise his children in the way of the Lord for it is said in Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it”. Lastly is ARROGANCE, saying sorry is not an evidence of weakness, it’s a mark of humility to accept the blame even when you do not think you are to blame. Another thing is being able to say Thank you, this expresses your appreciation and gratitude which we forget to do overtime ad there is also the use of Please, it is necessary to remain polite to your partner and even your children.
Ultimately do your best to resolve conflicts between yourselves instead of bringing in third parties. Find what works for you both, continue looking for new ways to love yourselves and never forget to always express your feelings towards one another as God shows his love for us by sending his only son to die for our sins.
God bless you!
Pastor Wale Adefarasin is the General Overseer of Guiding Light Assembly, Park view Estate, Ikoyi, Lagos. Nigeria. He is the general secretary of the Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria. He is a social entrepreneur, international and motivational speaker, He also wrote a book titled The Succeeion Crisis in Nigeria in this book he highlights Why Governments, Institution, Churches, Families and individuals must take generational succession planning seriously.
Pastor Wale Adefarasin is married to a beautiful woman Olaolu Adefarasin and are blessed with three children, a girl Ademide Adefarasin and two boys, Ademola Adefarasin and Adeolu Adefarsin.